How To Achieve a Prostate Orgasm Using Anal Toys (5 Steps)

Want to learn how to achieve a prostate orgasm using anal toys? Follow these five simple steps to experience a prostate orgasm using p-spot toys!

*Editor's note: This article was updated on 1 July 2024

Let's begin by acknowledging that prostate orgasms may come easier for some. However, if you find it difficult to achieve a prostate orgasm, or if you're wondering how to do it, this 5-step guide will get you started on finding your P-spot.

Even if you don't achieve a prostate orgasm straight away (it often takes practice), you'll have plenty of fun along the way! Prostate massages are highly pleasurable and make masturbation or sex even more enjoyable.

So, let's dive into how you can achieve a prostate orgasm using anal toys.

Step 1: Choose your prostate toy

On the journey to achieve a prostate orgasm, anal toys, such as prostate massagers, are essential.

When choosing a prostate massager there is one desirable dimension up for debate. Depth! Different prostate massagers vary in depth. Some will only stimulate the prostate, while others will reach it and then some. Ones that are longer may provide additional stimulation and therefore make the overall experience a lot more comfortable.

However, extra stimulation doesn't necessarily mean you will be more likely to achieve a prostate orgasm. The P-spot is the focus! At the end of the day, it's up to you and how comfortable you feel with anal toys.

Think about how you will control the toy. Having a handle to hold enables pushing and pulling, applying varying amounts of pressure. Once you find a movement that does the trick. It's easier to mimic with a toy and you won't fatigue like you would when using a finger. Consistent stimulation increases the probability of achieving a prostate orgasm.

Watch the video below for tips on how to choose a prostate toy from a sex toy expert.

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Vibrating prostate massagers

Vibrating prostate massagers provide unique sensations that can't be achieved elsewhere. Once you discover that certain motion or spot that feels amazing. Adding vibrations to that spot is only going to make things feel better. Some prostate stimulators, such as the We-vibe Vector, have multiple vibration intensities and pulsation patterns so you can find the setting that are the most pleasurable and comfortable.

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Step 2: Prepare your body for anal play

Before you get stuck in, I recommend watching the short video below where sex educator Emma Hewitt explains how to prepare your body for safe, clean and pleasurable anal play. Learn how to prepare your body for anal play and read our comprehensive Beginners' Guide to Using and Buying Enemas and Douches to make sure you're squeaky clean.

Step 3: Use lubricant. Always.

Yes lubricant is essential for all anal play as the anus doesn’t self-lubricate. We’ve established that the pathway to achieving a prostate orgasm is a long winding road with pleasurable bumps. Technically it's a short path about a few inches long, but the time it takes to achieve a prostate orgasm may take awhile!

The time aspect needs to be acknowledged, think consistent stimulation over potentially a long period of time. The lubricant you incorporate needs to reflect the longevity of your lust. Feeling an orgasm coming on and then suddenly having to reapply lube may kill the mood. Therefore, long lasting lubricant, like specialised anal lubricant, is recommended.

Oil based lubricant or hybrid lubricant will last a lot longer than water based lubricant, and if you're wondering why silicone based lubricant isn't being mentioned, it's because silicone lube can breakdown silicone toys. To increase your chances of experiencing a prostate orgasm be super generous with lube.

Whatever you think you should apply, double that amount.

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Step 4: Use your fingers first

Before utilising any types of anal toys, use your fingers to stimulate the prostate gland first. This will remind you exactly where to pleasure, or if you're a beginner, discover where the prostate is. If you are struggling with your fingers, beginners’ anal beads can be used to get things going. Generally, about two knuckles deep is the p-spot location.

The point of using a finger is to familiarise yourself with what feels good so that once practicing with an anal toy, you can incorporate similar movements. Basically what you want to do is provide pressure to different parts of your prostate gland to see what feels comfortable. If you suddenly feel encouraged to urinate, or feel sensations that feel similar to the beginning of an orgasm, you’re touching your prostate. Don't worry that feeling is completely normal.

This is an opportunity to discover what motions feel terrific and what doesn't. Don't expect to achieve a prostate orgasm with your fingers, the massage may not be powerful enough and like any body part, are likely to become tired. The point is to explore this intimate area so you can increase the possibility of achieving the big "O" with your anal toy.

Step 5: Try different positions

Discovering how to maximise your anal toy pleasure may depend on experimenting with different positions. It's also a great way to add variation to the bedroom when things become a bit repetitive. The following positions can be used as an individual or with a partner.

Doggy Style

This position is a favourite for many people for a reason and it’s great for prostate stimulation too. The downfall of this position is that your arms may become tired, especially if you’re using one to hold your weight and the second for anal stimulation. I recommend placing pillows underneath your legs to lessen the weight.

Legs Up

For those who are gifted with flexibility or regularly attend yoga classes. This position is sometimes known as the pretzel. This position is favoured by some because it naturally opens the anus. If experiencing difficulty with access this could be your solution.

The Small Spoon Entry

This position involves bringing your outer leg upwards into your chest to make insertion easy. This is a great position is it's really comfortable. One problem with this position is achieving strong stimulation and finding pleasurable angles. Therefore, using a curved anal toy or longer anal toy is great to accompany with this position.

Face Down

This position involves laying on your stomach. Allowing slightly better backdoor access. This is reasonably comfortable, adjust things to make things as comfortable as possible!

Remember that a prostate massage doesn't have to involve internal stimulation. External stimulation can be amazing on its own and is less intimidating and more comfortable for some people. Before any entry, external stimulation can be a wonderful warm-up, encouraging your sphincter muscles to relax.

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Editor’s note:

This article was originally published on 12 October 2018 and was updated on 01 July 2024 for relevance and comprehensiveness. The information in this article has been fact checked and reviewed for accuracy by Adulttoymegastore’s team of content specialists and sexual wellness experts, including Sex Educator Emma Hewitt.

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