How to Use a Bondage Blindfold During Sex
The blindfold is the introductory piece for many couples when wanting to explore sensory play. Using a blindfold is considered kinky but is commonly associated as an addition to vanilla sex. Therefore many couples at some point may incorporate a blindfold into the bedroom or include one every now and then.
1. Utilise sensory play
Wearing a blindfold is a form of sensory deprivation. Inhibiting the sense of sight amplifies all the others. The main sense we are concerned with during sex is touch. So take advantage of this when playing with a blindfold and take time teasing your partner. This is the perfect time to try stimulating some erogenous zones that you never had before.
2. Build anticipation
Not knowing where your partner's hands or lips will touch next can build arousal through anticipation. This build up can be erogenously exciting and make the main event that much more satisfying. A feather tickler can be used here to tease your partner even more, whilst those who are more daring may suddenly introduce some ice for raunchy temperature play.
3. Prepare a safe word
Identify a safe word that stops play immediately. Common safe words are: red, banana and unicorn. Upon the communication of a safe word, the blindfold should be removed and the issue discussed.
4. Explore domination/submission (D/s)
The reason you've introduced a blindfold is because you have identified that each partner may enjoy being a dominant or submissive. If your the dominant, practice what it feels like to healthily take control in the bedroom. This may involve teasing or edging, restricting movement, making sexual or even non-sexual orders. This is where it's so important to communicate about what is desired and what isn’t. It's easy to imagine how domination could become abuse if it is not thoroughly discussed. If your a submissive you will usually be ordered to do the many sex acts that you have identified as being comfortable with.
Many (D/s) relationships like to introduce some sort of roleplay into basic kinks. This may involve a teacher and student, cop and robber or any other scenario where one role has power over another. Finally, it can be positive to do a role reversal. This will give you an appreciation for the role of your partner and you may even discover some things you didn’t know about yourself.
5. Embrace the freedom
Even when enjoying sex in a long term relationship, we may be self conscious about unattractive facial expressions. If your the partner without a blindfold you can feel comfortable relieving all your sexual shyness as your partner can’t see. They will probably enjoy your renewed passion and confidence towards pleasuring them. For the person wearing the blindfold, they are free of worrying about their partners reaction and can focus on enjoying intensified sensory pleasure.
6. Reduce or magnify other senses
If you enjoy the sensory deprivation that wearing a blindfold provides, this could be an opportunity to explore different types of sense. Try covering your partner ears with earmuffs and see if they enjoy this even more. Potentially try some noise cancelling headphones and put on a certain song or playlist they may like, probably discuss the songs before wacking a pair of headphones on. Alternatively, just play some music out loud on whatever system you have. Something you may not have considered is to enjoy food during sex. It tastes better when your sense of taste is amplified. This is usually use during a longer session and we are talking really small quantities here. There’s nothing sexy about getting a stitch or indigestion mid sex.
7. Communicate!
Comforting the partner wearing the blindfold is essential to an enjoyable experience in the dark. When first donning the blindfold, each partner needs to know the limitations of each partner, what sex acts are okay and any parts of the body they would prefer weren't touched. This may refer to an area of the body that they don't associate with sexual stimulation.
Simply checking in from time to time whether they are comfortable, whether something feels okay, if anything needs to change or if they'd like to take it off. If you get the feeling that your partner may be nervous about communicating, play close attention to their body or facial expressions and take your time encouraging verbal communication. This greatly enhances trust in a relationship and will increase feelings of intimacy with or without a blindfold.
Important things to remember
Consider what material your blindfold is. Having really comfortable material may be the difference between a positive first experience and an average one. You may also want to think about how long the blindfold is and whether there is additional material. Dangling material can be visually stimulating and can also double as something to grab onto if your a dominant, be careful though!
Using a blindfold or exploring should be a really connecting experience between two partners. If both partners are not feeling this, discuss what may need to be changed. Is someone still feeling a little bit uncomfortable, distracted or stressed?
"I could do that blindfolded"
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