Strap on dildos and harnesses enable you to have penetrative sex if you don't have a penis. They can be used to penetrate a partner anally or vaginally, so whether you're in a same-sex retlationship and want to try out strap-on sex, or in a heterosexual relationship and are looking to explore "pegging", this guide will tell you everything you need to know about strap-on dildos if you're just starting out.
*Editor's note: This article was updated on 10 October 2021. *
Let's start with the basics. A strap-on dildo is basically a dildo that's designed to be worn with a harness, which is then used for sexual penetration - either vaginally, anally, or both.
What makes a strap-on unique is the different types of strap-on dildos and the different range of activities you can achieve with them.
A strap-on harness is worn around the hips and buttocks, and allows the dildo be be held in place and used by thrusting your hips, just like you would with a penis, during penetrative sex.
The term Pegging, also referred as "Bend Over Boyfriend" or "BOB" when used in a sexual context, is used to describe anal sex, more specifically a vulva owner penetrating a penis owner anally using a strap-on dildo.
Like most other forms of anal penetration, pegging is completely safe and a very pleasurable sexual activity but it requires preparation and care. Learn how to prepare your body for anal play and read our comprehensive Beginners' Guide to Using and Buying Enemas and Douches.
Let's have a quick look at the main types of strap-on sex toys...
Starting at the easy end, these silicone strap-on dildos are great for beginners as they're both small, smooth and leave room for error.
If you're a beginner but you're still looking for that extra bit of stimulation, vibrating strap-on dildos take your strap-on adventures to the next level. Let's face it, everything is better when it vibrates.
This is where things get more interesting, strapless strap-on sex toys are curved to provide stimulation to the wearer as it's inserted into the vagina and used to penetrate a partner while providing stimulation for both parties.
Although these strap-on dildos are mainly for vulva-on-vulva sex, they can be used for a vulva owner to penetrate a penis owner anally, but that's for more advanced users as it's difficult to hold them is, so harness strap-on dildos are easier to use for pegging.
If you're someone who suffers from erectile dysfunction or you feel that you're simply just missing those extra couple of inches that make good sex great, hollow strap-on dildos are the solution to all your problems.
Most hollow strap-on dildos are one size fits all so all you have to do is clip it on and you're good to go.
One of the most complicated things regarding strap-on sex is making sure you get the right harness that matches your dildo and other attachments. One way to stay away from this problem is to purchase a Vac-U-Lock strap-on dildo.
Unlike most O-ring shaped strap-ons, the Vac-U-Lock features its unique plug system which securely holds your attachment in place for all the penetrative time you need.
The great thing about Vac-U-Lock is that any other Vac-U-Lock products you purchase will all be compatible with each other. You'll never be in the mess of having incompatible sex toys again.
Regardless of what type of strap-on sex you decided to indulge in, its imperative to have plenty of lube to assure that your experience is as pleasurable as possible. Water-based anal lubricants are a great option as they leave little room for trouble.
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This article was originally published on 16 May 2018 and was updated on 10 October 2021 for relevance and comprehensiveness. The information in this article has been fact checked and reviewed for accuracy by Adulttoymegastore's team of content specialists and sexual wellness experts, including Sex Educator Emma Hewitt.
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